Sunday, March 26, 2023

Legislate Public Bathrooms by Adding Privacy

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Sexmantics- The Philosophy of Sex by Preston Brady III 

 Legislate Public Bathrooms by Adding Privacy 

 In America, in order to facilitate a more harmonious society, a transition from bathrooms labeled men and women, with just the label bathroom, would repair several growing problems, one of which is government laws mandating who can use a public bathroom, when they can use it and under what conditions a person can use a public bathroom. Fixing the bathroom problem is easy: remove the current partial doors attached to stalls and install full doors. Partition male urinals in the same room so they are out of view. The funds it would take to accomplish this could not exceed the cost of unnecessary legislation which not only limits or in some cases prohibits some people from using a public bathroom, it deepens a divide amongst the public over civil and personal rights of individuals. By way of analogy, in some states bakers can decide to whom they will sell a cake. The biggest riff concerned wedding cakes and personal beliefs of some bakers regarding sexuality and religious held doctrines regarding who can and cannot become legally married. If these laws are to be legislated and passed, then it would almost seem to follow that individuals could also choose which public bathroom they will use. The jury is still out on this particular issue but again, it’s possible and feasible to redesign public bathrooms wherein the privacy of a bathroom stall precludes any need of designating the entire room itself as male or female. This is not a new idea and in various parts of the world such private stalls have existed for decades. In fact, I recall seeing one in Helsinki over 40 years ago. In the United States there are numerous companies offering and constructing bathrooms with full door stalls. There is no need for governors and other politicians in America today, with the technology at hand, to sign into law legislation specifically aimed at transexual and nonbinary citizens. 


Children Trapped in the Wrong Body; Sexmantics -The Philosophy of Sex

by Preston Brady III

Children Trapped in the Wrong Body

Imagine being a 12 year old “boy” who mentally identifies as a girl. At an age when other boys are coming out of the girls are gross stage and now being attracted to them, you are attracted to boys. This is a dilemma of many children across the world. It goes the other way too: a child born as a female, attracted to females. 

For reasons still being studied and explored, some children accept this condition as being gay, while a smaller, but significant number of children do not feel gay at all but rather through a mix-up in nature, they were born the incorrect sex. Since, for about the past 40 years it has been physically possible to have your sex reassigned, more younger people are opting and planning for this transition. It’s a tremendous challenge, especially since in most cases the individual is required to begin the process by living as the sex they should have physically been born. 

It may be less stressful for an adult to decide upon and make this transition, but a child will face more difficult challenges, and it would be crucial, if not absolutely required to have the full support of parents and other family members. 

It would be ideal to also have the support of society, and that is slow coming although it is growing and in the distant future most people will be accepting of this situation and respect it. The two main push backs against transsexuality are religion and lack of understanding. 

 Children face the toughest challenges, especially from their peers. A child in this situation would need to stay focused on themself first, and maintain a mindset that the individual comes first, and society - the rest of the world - are delegated second. The child would need to maintain strong self-esteem, and be able to visualize their own future that transcends them past the very tough moments. The child would need to be mentally strong. 

Society, in general, views children as innocents whose level of being bad or cruel is natural and forgiving. However, children are very often a reflection of their parents, and they can bring that level of negative energy and cruelty to confrontations. In that regard they are mimicking adults, which in these cases likely indicates one or both parents have these personality traits. The result in the case of gay and transgender children is often a barrage of unrelenting harassment-metal and often physical. 

Schools, churches, governments, society need to do a lot more to protect the rights of a child going through this transition. An individual’s life is their very own. Life should guarantee them choices that harm no other individuals or society. This can only fully happen when government and religion accept that they cannot control or dictate such personal decisions as what sex you are. 


Saturday, March 25, 2023

The Psychology of Rape ( Part One); Sexmantics: The Philosophy of Sex

by Preston Brady III

The Psychology of Rape (Part One)

 Male hetrosexual rape against a woman is the most prevalent type of rape in the world - by far. And still it is a commonly misunderstood subject. Often overlooked is the animal nature of humans. We named ourselves human, to distinguish ourselves from other animals. The truth is we are domesticated animals, and it appears we have more control of the planet than any other animal. 

It is clear the manner in which some humans exert control, has been a failure on many levels. Sex education in most of the world is basically a few lessons in a classroom in which usually most shy away from discussion, and is considered embarrassing or humorous. There are extremely wide ranges of incidents from country to country. In this part the United States and United Kingdom are the focus. Statistically, as far as reported rapes are concerned, UK and USA are close at about 27%  per 100 000 of the population, including rape against males, of having been the victim of rape or attempted rape. (2010.) Male rape and definitions of rape are topics of future posts.

Back to man as an animal. Most heterosexual men who commit rape against a woman have an imbalanced hormonal chemistry. Despite a prevailing notion of connecting pornography with rape, most men who commit rape lack a healthy release system that would likely temper their over-urge for a one on one sex act. In other words they don’t watch or view pornography, or rarely do, and they don’t masturbate, or rarely do. They fixate on sex with a woman, and often it is a woman they have met or have known for a period of time. Men who rape women believe a number of things other men do not. They believe a courtship with a woman should lead to sex. They are invested in the woman and believe mutual sex at some point is implied. Elevated testosterone and prolonged failure to release, drive the act of rape. Widespread legalization of prostitution, more societal education about sex, less sex shaming, more tolerance of other people, would reduce rape in countries like the US and UK. One possible way to reduce rape in which the perpetrator and victim are previously unknown to one another,  is by openly providing legal outlets for men who reach that point of desperation, to obtain sex. Reducing rape by men against women they know, is more complex. However, being aware of legal avenues to satisfy what appears to be an animalistic seemingly uncontrollable need for sex, could divert some of these men, and allow them an alternative to rape.

Rape statistics compiled in 2010 even then could not be considered very valuable data, but only a glimpse of the true picture. Rape is a crime of guilt for many victims. The act is unreported in many instances;obviously that percentage is unknown. 

Rape is more preventable by societies and governments recognizing the cause of the problem, and allowing what they consider unorthodox alternatives to be publicly available. This is an exhaustive, far more complex issue than can be covered in one small piece. More to come in future writings. 


David; Sexmantics: The Philosophy of Sex

by Preston Brady III


A school principal in Florida was forced to resign after his staff allegedly failed to notify parents of sixth graders that photos of Michaelangelo’s famous nude statue of David would be shown to the students. The beauty of the artwork was not in question. Some parents felt it was too soon for their children to see a penis. It can be observed that possibly half of the students had already been exposed to a penis, and not just a photo of one but rather half way down their own bodies they had one of their very own. Philosophically, it could be somewhat counterproductive to future mental health, to shield youngsters from images of a natural body, even if it is of the opposite sex. It could transmit an alarming signal to the youngster that something is gravely wrong about human anatomy. It could result in psychological issues, say for a young adult woman about to consummate her marriage to a man. While it is true and valid, a parent’s right to monitor their children’s exposure to such things as art and the human body, it would seem fit for the exposure to be controlled by considering homeschooling for the child, or a private school that adheres to your own personal philosophy. 


To Pee or Not to Pee; Sexmantics :The Philosophy of Sex

by Preston Brady III

It has become more clear especially over the past few decades, the box people are asked to check on certain forms and applications - male or female - does not apply to everyone. Most people check a box without any thought, as they should. But across the world, millions of people do think about it, and they wished there were another box, such as nonbinary. 

And consider what should be a very simple concept: public bathrooms. The very design of most public bathrooms is wrought with societal design flaws. There are exceptions in some countries, where bathrooms are individual water closets with full doors and complete privacy. The concept of bathroom stalls which leave users exposed to the public, is a privacy concern. If bathrooms were designed properly, there would be no issue or concerns about who uses which bathroom. It could be said that keeping public bathrooms status quo, helps reinforce religious and political beliefs of those who are prejudiced against nonbinary and trans people. In the state of Arkansas this week, a governor signed a law mandating bathroom usage to anatomical sex at birth. Presumably, the fear is that a heterosexual man could dress in women’s clothing and stalk female bathrooms. The law prohibits authentic people in gender transition - or who have even surgically completed transition, from using a public bathroom other than their born physical sex. In other words, some people are being stopped by law from using public restrooms. This law, which is being implemented in other states as well, is misguided, flawed, and fails to solve the real problem: the layout and designs of most large, public bathrooms. It should not matter who walks into the main area of a public bathroom, if adequate privacy is provided in the individual stalls or rooms. I firmly believe that in the future, when most of us here are gone, people will chuckle or wrinkle their brow in puzzlement at the concept of our outdated design of public bathrooms. Privacy can often come at a monetary cost, and in the case of  redesigning bathrooms it seems it would be hard-earned taxpayers money well spent. 


The Worldwide Repression of sexuality

 The repression of sexuality has been a worldwide campaign since the 17th century. It has its roots in fundamental religion and fundamental ...